You can hear the word “resilience” almost everywhere nowadays since the term has become rather popular lately. The roots of the word can be found in Latin, and in English “resilience” means the act of rebounding. For humans, resilience means the ability to successfully adapting to new circumstances after events of stress or adversity.
Unfortunately, the most common way to tell whether you are resilient or not depends on how you react to an unfortunate event. Now, I would not wish for any adverse event to happen to anyone. But, in my opinion, you can find ways of preparing yourself to be resilient for future adverse events. Because whether we like it or not, as Dr. Frederic Luskin says, we need to be able to handle “no” when we expect a “yes” from life.
- Practice meditation: Practicing meditation may help you develop the ability to regulate your thoughts and emotions. Also, meditation may increase your moment-by-moment awareness of your thoughts and feelings, and this may help you prevent exaggerating things out of proportion.
- Be authentic: Presenting yourself to the outer world in a way that does not match how you genuinely feel is a demanding activity that may consume the cognitive resources that you might otherwise like to use for bouncing back from the adverse event. Being inauthentic will also cause you more stress. And to be authentic, you should be able to allow yourself to feel your full range of emotional experiences.
- Pay attention to your mental habits: What we think day in and day out has a huge impact on our reality. You need to try and replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Also, taking time to observe the growth opportunity of every event may boost your optimism.
- Follow a growth mindset: The phrase “growth mindset” seems to enjoy the similar type of popularity the word “resilience” has. People with a growth mindset are more likely to rebound and persevere because they believe that they can set new goals and achieve those goals with effort and practice.
- Don’t be a perfectionist: You should be able to detach yourself from whatever adverse event you might face. The goal here is not to dwell on the adverse event obsessively. You should try and do the best you can to find a solution but refrain from having a perfect solution.
- Practice self-compassion: Being kind and understanding towards yourself in case of adverse events is crucial. There is no point in amplifying any painful thoughts or emotions. And one additional thing you may do is to “forgive yourself”. This will help you refrain from criticizing yourself too harshly.
What are your go-to tools for increasing your resilience?