Lately, I’ve been hearing about the imposter syndrome a lot, especially from successful people whom I really admire. So I decided to do a bit of research about the topic.
As far as I understand, the syndrome is the feeling of not belonging or not deserving success. I remember having such feelings for most of my life:) I think I just did not realize that a lot of people around me felt the same way too. Well, focusing only on myself does not get me too far in understanding others’ feelings, does it? 🙂
I don’t think it’s very surprising to see that a good part of the population suffers from such syndrome. I mean, let’s take a look at our schools. They are full of teachers telling some students that they have no talent in arts or music. It’s no shock that when one day such a student wins an art competition, he/she could attribute his/her success to luck or other external factors. Why? Because his/her teacher said back in the day that she had no talent!
The thing is, teachers, friends, or parents will continue to criticize. In the end, you do not have control over what others say. You only have control over how you react. It’s in your hands to feel worthy and adequate. So below are a few tips that can help you get rid of feeling inadequate:
1.Know that you are worthy
I think one of the root causes of falling into the imposter syndrome is not feeling worthy. There are eight simple and effective affirmations you can repeat to yourself whenever you start doubting yourself. These affirmations are from James R. Doty’s book, Into the Magic Shop.
2.Don’t be a perfectionist
Act like you know what you are doing while trying your best. No one, not even Google, has all the answers to everything. And it’s OK to make mistakes. Tell yourself “I will figure things out as I go along”.
3.Don’t be arrogant
When a person is stuck in the imposter syndrome loop, one of the main fears a person may have is “they do not know yet that I’m incapable and they are about to find out soon”. This kind of thought sounds a bit like “I managed to fool others until now” and it is a bit arrogant. Remember, no one is thinking about you 24/7. A lot of people are mainly thinking about their own issues. The world does not revolve around any single person 🙂
You are wherever you find yourself because of all the choices you have made until now. Do not be too hard on yourself. Give yourself a break and know that you are doing a great job.
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