One of the quotes I live by is “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel”. The quote belonged to the American poet and civil rights activist Maya Angelou, who unfortunately passed away in 2014.
Now, would you like to stop for a minute and think about your relationships with others? For example, when you leave a room filled with people, do you leave behind a pleasant atmosphere filled with love, understanding, and kindness? Or, on the contrary, do you leave a lot of people behind with feelings of jealousy, sadness, and underachievement etc?
I am not an expert at making others feel good (and I try my best not to make others feel bad). But I consider myself very lucky to be surrounded by inspiring people who make me and others feel good about ourselves. And I am trying to learn from such inspiring people on every occasion I meet them. Based on my observations of such amazing people, I can say that one thing they have in common is they know how to really listen. They ask questions and they listen. When you talk, they look into your eyes, smile, and listen. They ask more questions and they listen again. They do not talk about their lives, their own success stories, or their troubles. They want to hear from you because they value you. They give you the feeling that “You are ok, you are safe, and you are doing a great job”. You immediately feel good and you never want to forget how that person makes you feel.
Moving forward, what can you do to make people around you feel good about themselves?